Monday 30 March 2015

Helping

The best forms of therapy, in my opinion, are the ones where the clients are enabled to have most of the revelations themselves, rather than deferring to the insight of the practitioner for "wow"ing.

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Thursday 12 March 2015

A Touching Testimonial

"I'm very grateful for how things turned out last night. I absolutely enjoyed the conversation and I felt a very strong connection. It amazing to think about that I have known people for decades, and never even been close to anything like this with them.

I also enjoyed going outside, and looking at the stars. It was a great thing to do, which I will certainly remember. Anyway, I would love to talk to you more, and I see it as a great investment.
I`ll initiate the payment now, so please let me know when you have received the payment.

Also, I will be going on a weekend trip leaving tomorrow so I wont be available for another session until next week.

Looking forward to talk to you soon.

And, thanks a lot for your help Antony."

Monday 9 March 2015

Avoiding Unpleasant Emotions



If you are always trying to avoid unpleasant emotions you will not be an honest person and you will probably not create anything fantastic either. Face up to your anxiety and deal with it now - make it fun! This is what you have to do now if you want to have a fulfilling life in the now to come.

Robin Balsiger: 'How do you mean "Make it fun"? Isn't that just another way of not really facing up to it and trying to make it into something else, because you wanna avoid the unpleasentness?'

 hmmm interesting what I mean is get into the spirit of the challenge , and see looking at your anxiety as part of an adventure of self knowledge. Sometimes when you do great things there are difficulties, but part of what makes those things so great is that the difficulties sharpened you for the challenge. Something like that, it's hard for me to put clearly. Great question!

Saturday 7 March 2015

My Vulgar Hatred of The '90s

I was glad to hear that I am not the only person I know who hates the 90s.

I don't know what I find more annoying about the pop music of the 90s, the fact that they constantly shat out lyrics that would be insulting to the intelligence of even the ditzy 14 year old girls that bought it, cases in point: 
  • "oh baby you're so fine, I'm gonna make you mine, your lips they taste so sweet," 
  • "you are my fire, the one desire, believe when I say, I want it that way," 
  • "you drive me crazy, I just can't sleep, I'm so excited, I'm in too deep, crazy, but it feels alright, baby thinking of you keeps me up all night" 
  • and etc. ad infinitum. 
Or rather, the fact that all these idiots went out an bought copies of this crap by the millions. I mean what does that say about the level of sophistication of our culture? 

The 2000s was definitely better. People who played their own instruments dominated the charts even if it was boy-band-metal such as Linkin Park or pop punk stars such as Sum 41 and Bowling for Soup.

At least the 2010s risque and unashamedly id, hedonistic and indulgent (Gaga, Kesha, Nicky Minaj, et al.) All right, most of the pop music of our era it is a bag of balls, but at least it isn't the "oh we are so nice and innocent and sweet, and completely asexual" which was the staple of the 90s, and of course, completely disingenuous. There was nothing more satisfying than when these good little boys and girls were exposed for taking recreational drugs at parties or behaving indecently. It broke the façade. 

Much of the disco music of the 90s was simply 70s disco music less the typically well arranged horn and string elements, or 80s disco music less the variety of synth or which was by this point considered "cheesy." We also said goodbye to the overblown rockist power-ballad with attendant guitar solo in pop, also to be considered mawkish and dated. I remember remarking once that M People's single One Night sounded remarkably 70s, only later to discover that it bore a striking resemblance to 1975 number Highwire by Linda Carr and The Love Squad. Likewise One For Sorrow, a track by an innately disposable and all but forgotten 90s band, Steps, is a dead ringer for The Winner Takes It All by Abba. 

Of course  was a lot of great music in the 90s outside of the charts, although I have thought compared to 60s and 70s and to a lesser degree 80s it was on "The Downward Spiral."  For each Nine Inch Nails there were a dozen Stabbing Westwards, for each Nirvana there were six hundred Silverchairs, a thousand clone bands who tried and failed to carry the movement forwards by replicating the sound of what they liked. For each Alanis Morisette or Cheryl Crow a thousand chart-topping acoustic acts have to have been forgotten in time, and you really have to shake your head in dismay.  

I don't really listen to contemporary rock so I don't know what it going on with it, but nothing I have heard so far has really grabbed my attention so maybe I have simply stopped paying attention. The crucial difference is, thanks to the advent of the internet, I can listen to virtually anything I like the sound of, from anywhere in the world, at any time - and from any time. Regardless of whether you happen love or hate the music of the 90s, you have one distinct advantage over your 1990s counter-part (or former self.) You can always get access to whatever music floats your boat!